My mother says that it is my fault that my brother no longer speaks to her. Of course it would have to be my fault, it has to be someone else's fault, because she can never admit to herself that she has ever done anything wrong. I simply tell her that I hope that someday she will seek help for her problems and that I am not interested in listening to her accusations. She usually ends up ranting to my dad since I don't bother to arguing with her:
Her (angrily): "I know that she's working for the Devil and I will not allow it. She thinks that she can turn her brother against us. I want an apology. I want her on the phone, internet, or sending a smoke signal; and he can send a smoke signal back. I'm not going to be harassed and harangued and manipulated anymore! It will get her nowhere! I ain't gonna -"
Him (calmly): "Why are you shouting with bad grammar? Just close your mouth and calm down until you can communicate with correct grammar and no 'ain'ts'."
Her: "Well God can understand me through a connection with the Spirit... I have spoken to God a lot and I will speak what I need to speak. I ain't gonna be hurt by her no more..."
Him: You need to be careful what you say. If you can't speak respectfully and decently then don't say anything.
Her (!): She's got you wrapped around her little finger. You've let her have her way her entire childhood. She will not rule me. No more. When it comes time to make the will there will be some changes made. I'm putting her on notice. If she doesn't change her attitude and try to get her brother to communicate. I will not sit back idly and let people walk all over my heart. They think they're going to divide my family. I will have no part of it. I want peace. Blessed are the peacemakers. Seek peace and pursue it honestly. He will not allow it in the Kingdom. I have to say what Christ would say in me. I have to because you won't. Christ in me is saying this. God won't be pleased with someone dividing a family up for their own personal gain. And maybe she will turn around. I'm hoping that I will get through to her. God is going to win this battle for me. Everybody can go to hell in a hand-basket if that's what they want. Don't be trying to divide and conquer with me because it doesn't work with God. I'm going to set things straight. There won't be any gain. I'm putting the Devil down. I'm not sitting here listening to this garbage anymore. I'm gonna put this trash where it belongs. There's no gain in that. I have to say that. Christ in you should understand I have to say that. There is no reward for someone that wants to destroy a family. Harmony and love. That is what I'm here for."
Once she gets started, there's no stopping her. She makes sure of that. Before he can even say anything else, she's already taken care of it:
"I will speak what needs to be spoken! I'm going to have peace as much as I can. There's no need to be like this. It is wrong. It is only to please the Devil and not to please God. It is doing the Devil's bidding. It is impudence! Telling me 'You've got problems.' Christ will heal the brokenhearted, that people have destroyed, when he comes back. When we see evil in our midst we are to stand up against it! I will be praying for the Holy Spirit. That's what changes people!"
Him (still calmly): "Why are you shouting?"
Her: "I am angry! I am not a robot! I am a human! I have feelings!"
Can't you almost
see her past trauma which is causing current psychological problems?
